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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Off Limits for 30 Days – “You don’t listen very well,” I heard her hiss. “That’s off limits, damn you.” And there was a crack and fiery agony clawed into my back.

The Joy of Sucking Cock – I wonder at times if that is why I am such a “good little cocksucker” as W calls me. When I am deeply into it, I almost enter this place where I am both the sucker and suckee, and it is as though it is MY cock being sucked on.

This intensity gets me riled when I am tied up (photo story) – James picked up that evil strap again. I watched helplessly as he positioned himself to use it on my pussy… Ever so lightly he started. Flick, flick, flick.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Ask Lilly: How do I know if a sex toy has phthalates in it? – The studies going around are saying that phthalate exposure can damage all sorts of organs, and can possibly cause cancer. There are a lot of harmful things in our world these days that we can’t avoid – so when we CAN avoid something like toxins in our sex toys, we should.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Portal. Confession #493 – It truly is a spiritual give and take, these sexual relationships I form. I can cross the threshold and see however much of someone that I choose to see, with whomever it is that I am involved with.

See also: Pleasurists #88 and #89 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Defying Gravity with Carrie Moon

Interview with Dylan Ryan

Is “The Smoking Jacket” a Smoking Gun?

Naked and Famous

That’s discrimination! -or- Two Words I’m Sick of Hearing

Very Deserved Wrath- Not So New Problems

Kink & Fetish

10 Things I Love About My Slave

A Rope Pride Flag?

At Last

Correlations

dutch part 6 – the finale!

Discovering DebPorn

Independence Day

Kinkster Me

No Mosquito Fetish Here

Our First Play Time – Part 1

Please

Post Exploratorium HNT

Sex and Kink

Subspace

Thoughts on Single Tailing

THIS is what happens to naughty little redheaded sluts…

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Declaration of Independence — From the eXes

Ass to Mouth

Bi The Way – Male Bisexuality and Swinging

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Euphemisms

Flying The Red Flag

Natural Born Swingers

Partnerships

Transtastic: On Coming Out as a Political Act

The Ins & Outs of Anal Sex

The Cialis Effect

Unusually High Sex Drive

Where is My G Spot?

Why Won’t Anyone Respond? — Help for Your Swinger Inbox

Erotic Writing

Adventures in Fisting

A Collision of Desires

boo full

Creature of habit pt. 3

Flashback: Our First Time

Fred

Fantasy: Australia Day

Good Morning

Get Down, Dirty & Get The Hell Out

I want…

Licked to orgasm

Sweat & Summer

Sparkly Vamp Erotica

The Ordeal (part one)

Upstairs. Now.

Wrestle

Photo courtesy of Elle from Kink Unleashed

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Editor’s Note: A little change in how things are done for this edition – you’ll notice there are no “Top 3″ picks – due in part to the holiday I ended up being extremely short on judges and I didn’t have enough for fair voting. So instead, I expanded my “Featured Post”. (If you’d like to volunteer to be an occasional judge for e[lust], just email me, Lilly, at questions.e.lust @ gmail.com) Also, please be sure to check out the new summer schedule in effect until the 20th edition.

~ Featured Posts (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Why Pride is Still Important – When someone tells me that they don’t think Pride is necessary, I can’t help but believe that they go through life with tunnel vision. I live in New York where for the most part I can walk around being a big ol’ queen and I’ll make it home alive, but there are people who live in places where they can’t. Even here in New York you’ll get called a faggot from time to time by passing cars or groups of punks, and even here in New York I hear stories of people getting the shit kicked out of them just because they were gay.

Fantasies and Condoms – Our culture has created a narrative in which sex only feels good and looks sexy if no one is protected. We’re all suffering from this narrative, but sex workers are probably suffering the most.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Some days we need a little hope – I encourage you to practice random acts of kindness that could be worthy of inclusion on the site (GivesMeHope.com). Be nice, be caring, let your heart open up just for the sake of bringing someone some happiness or comfort. Do you know how good it feels to just give?

See also: Pleasurists #83 and #84 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Kink & Fetish

An Anal Adventure

Bound in the Night

Being a Tart

Danger may explode without warning

Found It: Pearls for the Submissive Wife

Morning Rituals

Shoe Slut

(another!) Shoe Slut

Spanking my ass while fucking so he feels every wiggle

Submission is impossible in the absence of humanity

Strip, boy

Swallow Falls

The Trigger

The Beast with Three Backs

Erotic Writing

A long hot day

And then we kissed…

A Picture of Lust

Ass Plug

‘Come For Me…’

Depths

Exchange II

Forbidden Fantasy

Fucking Mika for the first time

Good Things Come To Those Who Wait

Getting Off…On The Road

Katie’s First Time

Master Class

My Favourite Waste of Time

Microfantasy Monday, week 84: Addiction

Picture to Word 2

Sociable

Saturday Night Plans

Safe Sex

The Train

Thunderstorms are Sexy

Teaching Respect (Part 1)

You First

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Adventures in Birth Control

Erotic Awakening: A Swinger’s Comments

Friends With Benefits His Lush Behind!

Getting Started – Hotel Parties

Greetings From The Deep End – Swinging and Openness

How To Have Multiple Orgasms

Mr. Strong

Play Safe. Stay Safe. Get Tested. Be Protected.

Political Cuddling: Asking, Talking, Touching

Reflections on Glass

Something I Wish I’d Had 10 Years Ago

Sex: A required part of the college curriculum

Shades of Grey

Three’s Company

Ten Life Lessons I’m Learning from Enslavement

Uncomfortable

Walk of Shut The Fuck Up

Sex News, Interviews, Politics and Humor

Interview with Scarlett Chaos aka Essin’Em

The Media is Not Responsible for Your Poor Body Image

To Shave or Not to Shave

This year the hot models featured are:

Bad Bad Girl

Brandon B

Coy Pink

Dangerous Lilly

Essin’ Em

Gloria Brame

Jiz Lee

Lillith Grey

Luna

Matthew Lawrence

Max Lagos

Mollena Williams

Nina Hartley (Shut up! Yes, you heard it right, Nina Hartley)

Radical Vixen

Sexy Sadie

Sovereign Syre (scroll down to her Back in Black video, you will not be disappointed)

And most importantly, funds raised support the Woodhull Freedom Foundation – a wonderful non-profit that strives to promote and protect sexual freedom.

Photo courtesy of Janie

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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Sex Pistil’s Guide to Sucking Great Cock - The penis is not something to be feared. It’s not something to hide from, and it’s definitely not something to be put up with the good china and used for special occasions only. The penis is alive and breathing, so to speak, and as such, is not a one-size-fits-all, if-one-guy-likes-it, all-guys-like-it kind of entity.

An Erotic Vignette – “You will come, and when you do, you will yell my name. Because I own you.” “No,” she whispered again, terrified. The last part of herself… total control over her pleasure, the responses of her body… surely he couldn’t… but his eyes said he could.

Dual Erotica: Tahoe – We finally reach our floor and excitement wars with nervousness in my head. After all, it’s been a long, long time for me. I don’t have the body I once had; I’m not nearly as experienced as you are. But there is no turning back, not that I want to

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Does Size Matter? - I am most definitely a size queen when it comes to my sex toys…but there’s a reason for that. Using a dildo is very VERY different from how I get fucked by a guy.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

I Want It All – Gender (identity) is different to (biological) sex. Biologically there are males and females, and those who identify as neither (intersex). But it’s sure as hell not that simple, no matter what society says.

See also: Pleasurists #80 and #81 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Along OUR Beating Path

Bringing Sexy Back

Equality

Fear (No Loathing) in Las Vegas

Getting Started in Swinging – Clubs

I’m a woman, and I like porn.

M says I’m a good girl!

Nerves & Dysfunction – Erectile Issues in the Lifestyle

Revelations (Of the Feminist and Slut Kind)

Sex Addiction

Submission is not an excuse to be Spineless!

Semi-Rape – Couldn’t Say No

Toys Vs. Cocks

Transtastic: On Why My Relationships are Queer

Words, Words, Words

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Sex Ed

The Uncensored Realm of Internet Erotica

Kink & Fetish

67 orgasms will do this to a woman

Bless Me Father… For I Keep Sinning

Carnival

Can I?

Life List: TortureGarden Party…check

Three is a Magic Number – Part 1

Erotic Writing

#8 – Sharing is Caring

Alone

A Gracious Acceptance

disrobing

Erotica: Like This

Gagging her…

Homecoming

I Opened My Eyes

Kiss

Love, Sex And The Snooze-Button

Not Now

Phone Threesome

Remember…?

sex is sex no matter the sex

sexy photoshoot – part II

The Customer

Tall Summer Grass

The cave of unimaginable sincerity and beauty

Very Far from Heaven

Wife swap on holiday

With heels on

And I send out lots of love to those who continue to read about my exploits. This blog would be so much less without wonderful readers.

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #16? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Evolution – Open Marriage, Swinging, & Polyamory – Do we REALLY believe that there is one love for us? Do we really believe there’s one cock or pussy to fuck for the rest of our life?

Sweet To Taste – “I’m dinner tonight,” she breathes. “So don’t let me get cold before you start feasting.”

Having a boyfriend makes me feel fat - I know my worth as a person isn’t devalued by my weight – but I can’t get past the notion that my worth as a partner is.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Fucked by a Stranger – For as long as I can remember, I’ve had this bizarre, twisted fantasy. The roads leading to it were different, but the end result the same: a stranger fucking a very willing me in my bed in the dead of night.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

At Her Mercy – “You have been such a good boy today. Where do you want me to put your cock next?” she said with a wink.

See also: Pleasurists #78 and #79 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Erotic Writing

A Taste of Honey
A Collaborative Fantasy
Dirty in all the Right Places
Fuck my face
I miss your cock
I Didn’t Think I Was Ready…
In a nightclub
Just can’t get enough
Let’s Not Waste That Morning Wood
Morning Lust
Nothing Personal, prologue, part one
Possess Me
Stowaway Dildo. Confession #477
The Black Sheets
The Sitter
Waking Up

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

EdenFantasys: A pattern of deception
HIV, Lube Quality, and Anal Sex: Scare Tactics at the LA Times
I Bet Nick Cage Won’t Eat A Preying Mantis
Interview with Scott Owens of EroticBPM
Reaching a Goal

Kink & Fetish

Another Night of Debauchery
Batteries with a Hook
Chastity and the ensuing Punishment
Differences in Submission
I can feel him punch-fucking me
Patient Griselda
Please hurt me
Please, Sir
Remembrances
Story: The Price (FM/M)
Summoned
The Submissive & My Paddle
Visceral and cerebral
Whippings at the Royal Palace

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Answers with an Agenda 3- Dental Dams
Acceptance
Getting Started – Their Profile
How Swinging Gave Me Confidence
My View on Monogamy
Roxy’s April Visit: Collaring My girl, the Ceremony
Sometimes Simplicity
The Sad Seal Lady & Other Precautionary Tales
The 4 of Swords

photo courtesy of Lila

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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Answers with an Agenda 1- Fisting – Once you’ve gotten started using two fingers for a bit, then it is time to build until four fingers are sliding in and out of the person, and you are on your way.

Gagged – I think it’s got to be a combination… fingers sliding into your cunt, a merciless tease of your clit, and yes, it’s going to have to be, lining my cock up with your ass.

Mine – I feel you stir beneath me as I create a rhythm, your breathing changing growing more shallow as you slip from sleep into arousal. My eyes lift to yours as you smile and try to move your arms and then freeze.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Puppet Master – When I was right next to them and they still did not notice, I put my lips to his ear (loud music, you know) and whispered “Touch her boobs, I bet she’d like that” and I backed up a foot.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Shaping Some Limits - “If you ever did that to me, I promise you would never see me again”.Those words were spoken to me this past weekend by my pet during one of our overnight dates. The subject was face slapping.

See also: Pleasurists #77 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Kink & Fetish

12 Licks of the Tawse

A Canvas for Pain

Best Friends

Fetish: What’s Yours?

Needles and Cock Choking

One Couple’s Journey into Kink, part 2

Pieces of Skin and Bone

Please hurt me unbearably, you fucking fucker!

Ssssh…

The Taskmaster’s Whip

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A (Short) Ode to Uncut Cocks

Compersive Vanillas?

How Fear can Lead to Understanding and Trust

I am not a rapist…

Mother’s Day Gift

On threesomes

On Friendship

Playing Nice On The Swingset

Tyler and Holly Give Swing Clubs Another Chance

The Virgin in the Family/Do Not Enter

third person

Whacking For America

Erotic Writing

26 minutes

A Request For Help

Are you willing, Are You?

A Squirting Experience

All Dressed Up – The Party ….part 2

Beginning

Book Orgasm

Dhanurasana

Flesh for Fantasy

Filled

Getting Lost in the Forest

Guest Post: Truck

Go Habs Go Domme Style

hotel window

How Do I Find You Sexy?

I’ll Be Waiting

Jim and Lisa

Keeping It In The Family

Mind the Gap

My Sluttiest Moment

My First Blowjob

Me, Myself & My Clit

Not Tonight Dear, I’ve Got A Headache (Part 2)

Pure, Unadulterated Desire

Predatory

rhythm

Something Different

slumber interruptis

therapy session #1

Wanton Wednesday- Fuck-toy

Wednesday Night Blues

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

A Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Eden Fantasys Newbie Help Guide

What the fuck, EdenFantasys?

Workshops and More at the ALCC

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Stuck – Since I first saw the picture he sent me I have had this visual stuck in my head, like a sweet thing lingering in the mouth…. wrists bound, tied to headboard–ankles bound, tied to baseboard– naked, exposed

Animalistic - I grabbed the back of your ponytail like I owned you. No protest. Only a moan. Fuck, how aroused were you? Even your kiss was desperate, wet, passionate; your body was on fire and it showed.

A Hot Afternoon – She took Grady’s hand and guided it between her legs. Grady’s instinct kicked in as soon as she touched Hatty’s tender clit and felt the wetness gathered there.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Confessional: Fixation/Addiction – In porn, both video and photo, I have little interest in the men. It’s the women who get my full attention, who arouse me. I seek them out. I flick past hetero couplings, bored. Blow jobs? Meh. Oh wait, close-up of her pussy? Her coming? Ok I’ll watch now.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Thanks for the mansplanation, but I greatly prefer my vibrator – His views on female masturbation (derived, clearly, from absolutely nothing legitimate) are so fucked up, so irritating, and so detrimental, that I want to punch him in the face. It is, truly, mansplaining at its finest.

See also: Pleasurists #75 and #76 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Pondering

An I thought us girls were supposed to be the confusing sex?

I get ragingly horny watching gay porn

Menopausal Body

Over-Rated

Snotty Blowjob

The Ethical Slut

What counts as kinky?

What Is Romance

Why We Swing

Sex News, Interviews, Politics and Humor

Strip Club Series – Part One – Club Super Sexe

Kink & Fetish

An Anal Fairy Tale

How I Turned My (Ex)Husband Into a Pervert Pt.1

In Her Place

Kinky

Love that Thang He Does

On Productivity, Insanity and Grilled Cheese Sandwiches

Rights and Responsibilities

Shoe shopping

Show Me Your Teeth

The Greek Slave

Voice

Erotic Writing

A Recurring Fantasy

almost

Awakenings

A Helping Hand

Bite me

challenge

des fumes

Exposed

Frankie Says Swallow

For your prompt review

Gardening

Glass Elevators

Haze

In The Boardroom With Brock

Microfantasy Monday, week 77: Rain, part 2

Monday Morning Flash – “Homebaking”

One of the Hottest Moments I Had as a Prostitute

Seven

the feast

Unexpected Pleasures

Used

Wet

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Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #13? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Flesh – Her mind awash with the thought of fucking. The smell of his scent stirring her cunt, her skin alive and encased by lust.

Putting energy in – Play is energising, at its best; so when both of you are tired, sex or spanking can be a way to get away from it all, rejuvenate your emotional connection and stimulate body and brain with a flood of hormones and endorphines.

A Rude Awakening – In the depths of the night, I half wake to the feel of her cool skin wrapping itself around my back. Soft breasts pushing against my ribs and her groin moulding itself to my buttocks.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Shouldn’t – It always starts off so inconspicuously. Innocent, like the sort of teasing that might occur now and then between any other pair of friends who share a hint of attraction to each other.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Comfort – She’s so strong and yet, when we lie down together, she makes herself small and vulnerable for me. ”Hold me” she says in a tiny voice

See also: Pleasurists #73 and #74 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Erotic Writing

Back Story

bodystocking blowjob

Bella Durmiente

Began my day

Bubbleland

Current events

Fiction: Growth

First Meetings…

Game On

“I want your cock in my mouth”

“Make Me”

Mauled at Noon

Monday Morning Flash – “Bathtime”

musing/not asking

Negotiations

Oh, What a Night

One Last Surprise

Over-Ruled?

Park ‘N Ride Me

Slut with Wine Bottle

Stardust

Satin Met a Laddie

Unravelled

Wednesday meeting with V

Kink & Fetish

BDSM Advice Series: Gags

Domme for a day

FetInRealLife #12 – DIY Flogger

First Memories

Impact

Last Night

New friends and intense, sweaty, loud orgasms

Out with the Old, in with the New

Sluts, Squirts and Swing Clubs

Steel

Submissive Skills: Hunt Slut

Trust

taking her as My girl, discovering the Dom within

“Welcome to SpankingCast, our spanking podcast”

Sex News, Interviews, Politics and Humor

Building Community for Sex-Positive Sexuality Professionals

Soaking — Marinating in the Cunt of Christ

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Gay Pride

Going Bareback

I Can’t

Ladies, what do your genitals say about you?

My Identity is Erased

More Bad Advice

My Rape Story

Read and you may learn…V-massage

Psychology of Rape Fantasy- An Overview

Support Survivors

Top 10 Good Things About A LDR

You Shur Got a Pretty Mouth

Most of the people I’ve interacted with online since starting this blog have been wonderful. Up until the other day I had a chat widget on here that enabled me to chat with readers whenever I was logged into my Digsby aggregator. Every so often someone would say hello and it was pleasant to talk to people, answer sexuality questions and receive compliments. However, someone has ruined this for the rest of you now.

A blog reader (whose IP I have logged, I know you’re in New Jersey) has been going back and forth between my blog and Coy Pink’s for the past few days. He tries to talk to us via our pingbox/chat widget and if one doesn’t respond he quickly goes to the other. He is demanding in his tone and I got sick of his badgering me (not to mention inappropriate behavior when chatting with me) so I deleted the chat widget.

The chat started off friendly enough with some compliments. I always try to be gracious when someone contacts me because I really have no reason not to be. However, even when I said that I didn’t want to talk right then because I wanted to work on a blog entry, he kept messaging me a few more times because I still appeared online. By the time I made my excuses and finished the conversation (which I did mainly so I could blog in peace and quiet) he had stepped over a line by telling me that he was picturing fucking me from behind.

Seriously, this shit is creepy. I am a woman, a sexual assault/rape survivor and I live in a culture where rape is rampant. I don’t want some completely anonymous guy who I have no information about telling me what he “wants” to do to me. It’s nice to want, buddy, but seriously, I don’t want to hear it. However, being nice to people and going down the path of least resistance is my usual modus operandi so I simply got the conversation to end. Also, he started talking about wanting to play with me and how he’s into dominance. I made it clear that MasterDoc is the person to talk to since who I do bdsm play with is his choice.

Later that evening, he contacted me again. I had said I might be available to chat after a certain time so it was to be expected. Coy Pink and I had compared notes by this time (he mentioned that he had talked to her). This time, he started in right away trying to dominate me. It was nearing bedtime, so I had even less patience for that shit than usual. I told him straight out that I don’t appreciate someone who isn’t MasterDoc trying to tell me what to do. He apologized, but tried the same shit a short while later. I was tired and in no mood to talk, so the conversation ended. (But not until he had said that he was just seeing if we were on the same wavelength – yes this dude tried to frame his attempt at domming me as a “test.” I call bullshit.) However, Coy Pink saw him pop up on her site and try to talk to her. Apparently he spent a good amount of time going back and forth between her blog and mine. This stalker behavior is fucking creepy. And yes, it is stalker behavior. He sent me more instant messages apologizing for his behavior earlier.

I was away from my digsby for all of Friday, but as soon as I logged in on Saturday – yes, AS SOON AS I LOGGED IN – he messaged me. And he continued to message me every few minutes even though I didn’t respond. He had already messaged Coy Pink the second she logged on on Friday and Saturday. Coy has had more patience than I when it came to ignoring him or tersely replying to his messages. I have had no patience for it. I should not feel like I’m being stalked when I log in online. So I deleted my chat widget. Of course, today he messaged Coy – AS SOON AS SHE LOGGED IN – and asked why the widget was gone on my site.

It’s arguable that I should have told him to fuck off directly, but I’m a very non-confrontational person. However, creepy stalker guy from NJ? Fuck off. Do not contact me ever again. Ever. Your behavior is NOT acceptable and I want nothing to do with you. Also stop contacting Coy Pink. Take the hint, it is not okay to contact us.

Unfortunately, female sex bloggers sometimes have to deal with all sorts of creepy and douchey behavior from men. Dangerous Lilly had an incident on a dating site a last year. Other bloggers have dealt with all manner of assholery. I thought it might be useful to give men guidelines for contacting their favorite sex bloggers:

1. Be respectful. I am a human being and deserving of respect. My being sexually free does not mean you can accost me with sex talk. I am an educated, intelligent, professional woman. I am only a slut for MasterDoc.

2. You DO NOT KNOW ME. It may feel like that if you’ve read for a while, but only a tiny piece of my life and who I am appears on this blog.

3. I DO NOT KNOW YOU. I don’t have the advantage of reading a blog filled with your innermost thoughts and sexy adventures. I know absolutely nothing about you. Approaching me to see if I’d consider playing with you is not appropriate. Let me know who you are, let me get to know you, then approach the subject – this does not mean approaching the subject the same night or even same week you first contacted me.

4. If I turn you down, or if I ignore your messages, this is my right. I do not owe you a response. Do not keep contacting me multiple times a day. I do not owe you sex. I do not even owe you sexy talk when you want to wank. I’m glad that people enjoy my blog and the few pictures I put up, but I really don’t want to hear anything more explicit than, “Your stories/pictures are hot. Thank you for sharing them.”

5. Stalking my blog or any other blog is creepy and inappropriate. And likely to get your IP address turned over to the police.

6. I have plenty of friends, so don’t be surprised if I don’t make the effort to pursue a friendship with you. Even if you seem nice I probably don’t have the time or inclination right now.

If this sounds bitchy it’s because I feel the need to be firm and direct with the creepazoids of the internet. As I said earlier, most people I’ve heard from have been wonderful. People who are nice and respectful may have some hope of meeting and hanging out with me. People who go on about fucking me when I know nothing about them will get blocked. It’s not that I’m all that but being a sexually open woman does tend to attract people. Just because I write about my sex life in detail does not mean I will fuck anyone. Just because I’m slutty doesn’t mean I will meet you.

Here’s the stalker’s history on my blog today: