Monthly Archive for April, 2010

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e[lust] #11

HNT courtesy of Neptune Blue

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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Sometimes poly IS hardThe difficulties one faces in managing healthy interpersonal relationships, and the skills one employs in overcoming those difficulties, are the same whether you are monogamous or poly or something in between.

Artist and Model – I’m drawing her furiously along with everyone else in the class. I know her name is Janice because a long time ago we’d been acquaintances, then lovers for a night, and then I didn’t see or hear from her again.

His Boots – He’s my fix. I’m his addiction. Maybe we’re just each other’s junkies? I can never tell when i’m close enough to breathe him in I cease to care about anything else.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

I need a new highway….

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Nerds are NOT this season’s must-have accessory - Being a nerd doesn’t mean you grew up unpopular and tormented, that you have a high-paying job, that you like Star Trek, that you’re socially awkward, that you never exercise, that you run Linux on your computer, that you’re highly educated, that you have low self esteem, or that you have trouble getting dates.

See also: Pleasurists #71 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

31 orgasms, and that is just the foreplay

BDSM — Am I Abused?

Being Watched

Being a disappointment makes me feel like shit

Games I play with girls

“I want to be your whore”

Money in M/s

Scrabble the Jade Way

Sexualising ‘Sir’

Somehow

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Another Menage a Trois of Power

Confronting the bigots

porn, like sex work, defies easy generalisations

Thoughts on Owning my Butch Cock (Part 1)

Erotic Writing

A Dirty Girl with Needs

Blood Tint ~ Part 7

Dream on Part 2

His Birthday ~ Her Surprise!!

His Need part two

Hot and Wet

I Kissed a Girl…Deuxième Partie

It’s the simple things

It has been awhile…

Microfantasy Monday, week 72: the edge

Office Politics

Over the Weekend

sssgirls rock

Something Sexy. Confession #354

The Second Date

This photo…

The Haircut

Under 500: The Hungarian

Winner Takes All?

Wicked Wednesday: High Art

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Femme Crip Rant

Controlling Emotions

Consequences

Come on

Do You Suffer from Opportunistic Boyfriend Syndrome?

Eating Her Out

Essure to take off the Pressure

Hair

Letting Go

Life of a Sex Toy Addict

Naming the boy, Blue Balls

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German Ancestry

While I most often blog as a way to chronicle my sexual adventures, I also like to use this forum as a place to sort out my thoughts via the process of writing. This is one of those entries.

When I meet someone who has a strong sense of pride in their heritage, it drives home the fact that I don’t have the same feeling. I’ve known plenty Irish-Americans and Italian-Americans who were proud of their Irish or Italian ancestors and the cultures of Ireland and Italy. However, my ancestry is mostly German, and I can’t recall a time in my life when saying, “German,” “Germany,” or “German history” brought up anything other than thoughts of the Holocaust and Nazis. (And speaking of Italians, why doesn’t Mussolini get brought up as often as Hitler?) It’s really difficult to be a proud German-American, at least in my opinion. I sometimes feel the need to point out that Hitler was Austrian, not German. There are scads of buzzwords that immediately bring that dark, dark period in German history to mind. I commented a while back on another blog comparing how it’s still currently okay (on many levels) to be sexist against women – women are routinely shamed about their bodies in our culture – it reminded me of how, for many centuries, Jews were “acceptably” discriminated against in Europe. I wasn’t talking about the Holocaust, but for most people that’s the only thing they think of. (Alas, the Jews have a very long history of being persecuted. If people were going to accuse me to conflating it with the Holocaust, how come no one accused me of conflating it with the Spanish Inquisition? Seriously. I wasn’t speaking about either time period but why does the Holocaust come up but not the other horrific era of Jewish persecution in Europe?)

So the issue many people face when thinking about German history is the horrors committed by the Nazi party. I don’t wish people to stop remembering the Holocaust – it’s vital that we remember and learn from it. But what about my ancestors? My German ancestors came to the United States in the late 19th and early 20th centuries (and reading up on German-American history on wikipedia* I discovered that many Catholic-Germans like them immigrated to the United States in that time period). By the time World War II came around, they were officially Americans. But somehow, even knowing this doesn’t allow one to express pride in a German background.

I know very little about German history prior to World War I, and that’s a shame because the people who were my forebears lived in Germany before that time. I’ve developed a fascination and a bit of a romanticized notion about Weimar Republic Germany, however the people I’m a direct descendant of weren’t living in Germany by then.

I tend to turn to Wikipedia as my “not quite reliable” source for information I’m casually interested in.  Germanic tribes were known to roam the land we now call Germany back during the Nordic Bronze Age. They’re a people with a long, long history, and it’s shameful that Adolf Hitler marred their history with his megalomania and bigotry.

It seems the road of German history was rocky all along. Regions combined and divided a dizzying number of times. I don’t get a good sense of cohesion among Germanic people until the late 19th century or so.

My position as a German-American who doesn’t feel in touch with her German ancestry is probably pretty widespread. Did you know that Germans make up the single most populous ethnic group in the United States? There are plenty of Americans who have obviously German surnames that I don’t notice in day to day life (actress Katherine Heigl? actor Richard Moll? Heigl is so obviously German when I think of it.), not to mention those who are by majority of German descent but whose surnames reflect another part of their heritage – did you know that Leonardo DiCaprio’s mother was a German immigrant? His father was half German/half Italian. It’s his Italian paternal grandfather’s name that’s been passed down. Looking at the list of famous German-Americans at Wikipedia is amazing. Somehow hearing the name Trump doesn’t make me think it’s German. And how could I know that Herbert Hoover’s family name was originally Huber?

A huge part of this sense of my ancestry being a total disconnect was explained well when I realized that during World War I and World War II Germany was the enemy. Many German-Americans worked hard to assimilate during these years so they wouldn’t be targets of anger and hate. (I had no idea that some Germans were held in U.S. internment camps during World War II.) They abandoned speaking German. They became the totally Americanized people my grandparents were. While I think in my grandparents’ generation there was still some sense of German pride, I’m sure it was more and more hidden. My maternal grandmother spoke some German from learning it at home, but my maternal grandfather and paternal grandfather didn’t. (My paternal grandmother was of a different ancestry. Like many Americans, my heritage is a mish mosh.)

German-Americans have become such a part of the fabric of America that they blend in. Think of all the German things that are a part of the American experience – Christmas trees, hamburgers, hot dogs (frankfurters), kindergarten, not to mention BEER! (Anheuser-Busch, Schlitz, Pabst, Coors, etc. – German names) These things are considered American now without a thought to their origin. Many German-Americans first came to this country to get away from Nazi persecution. We forget that there are German Jews who immigrated to the U.S.

While these realizations won’t lead me to wave a German flag and sing Deustchland Uber Alles, I do feel a bit less ashamed of my ancestry. I’m in good company. I’m kinda curious to attend New York City’s Steuben parade sometime. However, like most German-Americans I am well enmeshed in my identity as an American.

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* I realize wikipedia is NOT considered a reliable resource. I won’t use it to answer questions while I’m at work at the library. However, for my personal entertainment and edification I think it’s accurate enough that I will go there to learn about things that don’t show up in printed encyclopedias. I read a report a few years back of a study in a librarian magazine that when compared to the rate of mistakes in printed encyclopedias, wikipedia wasn’t significantly worse.

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Sex Via Powertools

My vacation is off to a nice start.

Friday night we had a couple over – I had met the woman on fetlife and in a funny coincidence she’s my age and her Dom is the same age as MasterDoc. They brought a bunch of toys over and MasterDoc immediately pounced on their cases and had to see what was inside. They had some things we have (medium rubber flogger, clover clamps) and some stuff we didn’t – namely a pussy pump. MasterDoc was excited to try that out.

But first, we chatted. MasterDoc was really “on” that night (at least I think so) and he was chatty and funny. He has a lot of funny stories to tell from his life and for the most part I don’t get tired of hearing them.

Our guests were interested in the sybian, and when given the choice of the flat, small, medium or large attachments, our ladyfriend went for the large. Yikes. Too big for me, and therefore proof that I’m not truly a size queen. I offered to get lube but she said she didn’t need any. Man, I wish I could get that wet and aroused just from hanging out talking about sex toys. I need a little help and actual physical contact usually.

She had her ride, MasterDoc’s back was bothering him so her Dom was the guy she had to fall forward onto (and grab onto – riding the sybian makes you grasp blindly at whatever you can hold onto). However, MasterDoc sat on the sofa beside him and worked the controls. It was hot to watch as always. I think this is why I don’t get porn where the women look like they’re acting – it’s so fucking hot to watch a woman in the throes of passion. Just going, “Ooh, ooh yeah baby” isn’t enough to make me think you’re hot for it. Why would porn like that ever be enjoyable? But when a woman ceases to be aware of her surroundings and just gets lost in the sensations, well it’s a beautiful thing to watch.

She managed to get two rides (she must have more stamina than me), but for her second ride she used the flattop. You see, the large dildo was too much of a good thing and it made her bleed a little. (Hooray for silicone toys that can be properly cleaned and disinfected between partners.) She was cropped and caned during the rides, and for the second one she wore clover clamps. She is made of tougher stuff than I. I was keen to get a ride myself, but first MasterDoc wanted to try out the pump.

He put the nipple cylinders on my nipples and pumped them. It was painful having my nipples sucked hard into the tubes. Next he tried the large cup that goes over the pussy and gave it a few pumps. I didn’t love the feeling but I can see where drawing that much blood into your parts could lead to heightened sensitivity. Thirdly, he tried the clit cylinder and sucked my clit up into it, making it big. (But I scoffed at calling it big since it’s not anywhere near as huge as a transman’s clit.)

Anyway, I got my sybian ride complete with caning and we chatted a while longer. They headed out and it seems that they had a good time. (The Dom emailed us the next day to say so.)

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Last night was even more fun. With MasterDoc’s back being out, he had brainstormed things he could do to me that required only minor effort on his part. You see, creativity can keep your sex life going despite adversity. Fucking would throw him into severe pain so that was out. Any sort of impact play would require moving and working muscles in such a way that it could worsen his back pain. But he realized that we have a Zeus Electrosex box (available at Extreme Restraints) that my friend Coy Pink won and sent to me since she wasn’t interested in it. (It’s so good to have sex blogger friends!) We hadn’t really used it to this point, but MasterDoc experimented last night.

I was very nervous when he placed the electro pads on either side of my labia. As he upped the intensity on each pattern it would hurt for a moment, and then translate itself into pleasure. There were only one or two patterns out of seven that I really didn’t care for. I felt the shocks in the crooks of my hips. He placed the pads differently, working on getting the shock current running through my clit. On the second try the electricity arced just over my clit and ran through my pubic mound. I placed the pads next time, and this time it worked. It felt like someone was tapping on my clit as he ran current through it.

He toyed with different settings. At one point he had me find a setting I liked and once confirming that I like it he set the box on random. I was enjoying myself one second and then saying, “Hey, it  changed!” the next, which gave him a laugh.

I was surprised, although I don’t know why, at how easily my body can translate the pain of the electricity into pleasure. I contemplated my masochism, wondering if it’s getting deeper or if I’ve just simply started to allow myself to feel pleasure with these sensations that non-masochists would tell me aren’t pleasurable. I was leaning towards the latter. I don’t usually think of myself as sexually repressed, but I suppose in this society we all are to some extent. As I continue in a trusting D/s relationship I’m able to explore my darker fantasies and finally admit them not only to myself, but also to MasterDoc. When you have dark fantasies you need to be careful who you tell them to as they very often contain some risk – physical and/or emotional.

The level of electric shock that went into my body from this toy was just the right amount to get me aroused and lost in the sensation. MasterDoc got a little frustrated with me because he was looking for feedback since it’s a new toy, and at times I wasn’t able to express myself. It felt good enough that he could command me to come and I came from the sensation of the electricity running through my clit. I came two or three times this way. It’s hard to describe the sensation, it feels like your nerves are being stimulated directly under the skin rather than stimulated by sensations on your skin like most toys. Some of the electrical patterns were buzzy like vibrators, but again, it felt like it was vibrating inside my pubis rather than outside of it.

For the first time, I felt like my submission was realized in my orgasms. He kept the machine going and I just kept coming over and over and over again. I couldn’t stop. I was totally at his mercy. I had lost all control of myself to him and the toy. During one orgasm I had to beg him to stop because I couldn’t breathe.

And so, with very little movement and physical effort on his part, MasterDoc got me off and made me extremely happy. He had me suck his cock for a while after and I was enjoying it so much I pushed my endurance farther than usual. I love when his fingers entwine in my hair as I’m going down on him. Even if he doesn’t thrust his cock deep inside my throat the potential gets me hot.

After my mouth was fairly exhausted, he had me move up for a cuddle. He stroked his cock as I stroked his chest, and I found myself getting hornier and hornier because he was getting hornier and hornier. I pressed my naked body up against his and breathed shallowly against him, nuzzling his cheek. I reached down and massaged his groin until my hand was about ready to fall off. I didn’t mind really because it was so hot making him feel good.

When he was ready to come I watched his cock intently, wondering if I should just shove it in my mouth like I wanted to or if I should wait to find what he wanted me to do. I hesitated a bit, but probably indicated with my body language what I wanted to do. He told me to put it in my mouth as he came. I sucked his cock into my mouth – a little too hard and so backed off right away with the suction. His slick, come covered cock filled my mouth. I held the come in my mouth and he had me dribble it out onto the throe.

Very hot indeed.

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As I came up with the title for this post, I was reminded of MasterDoc’s recent comment. He says that there’s like an “arms race” between Doms these days – they keep buying bigger, fancier or more expensive toys and then show them off at parties.

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Green Your Sex Life, Help the Planet

from Babeland:

Come for a cause this April as Babeland raises money for non-profit environmental news site, Grist, in an eco-fundraiser celebrating the 40th anniversary of Earth Day. Grist is an award-winning online magazine referred to as “The Daily Show of the environment” by Newsweek. Babeland’s “green” sex toys are made of body-friendly materials like silicone, stainless steel, glass, wood, and non-phthalate plastics, and renewable resources like glass, wood, and steel. And when you choose a rechargeable vibrator, you save up to 100 dead batteries per year from hitting the landfill. Our bath and body products are organic, and we carry vegan and organic lubes and condoms. Co-sponsored by Sliquid, California Exotics, Jimmyjane, Njoy, Lelo, and Nobessence

from Nadia:

Rechargeable vibes are where it’s at! My Lelo rechargeable toys are more powerful than many battery-powered vibes. You save money on batteries, but also save the batteries from becoming trash. Not to mention the fact that many of these eco-friendly toys will last you a lifetime with only basic care – glass, wood, stainless steel toys. (I can’t see how my Njoy Pure Plug will ever need to be tossed.)

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