Interesting. I took a little quiz and somehow I came out as more exhibitionist/voyeur than submissive. I even came out more masochist than submissive…. and apparently I do have a bit of a sadistic streak. (Tee hee.) But only a bit.
Interesting. I took a little quiz and somehow I came out as more exhibitionist/voyeur than submissive. I even came out more masochist than submissive…. and apparently I do have a bit of a sadistic streak. (Tee hee.) But only a bit.
So often, sexual websites are overpriced. It’s no wonder that blogs and free porn sites are so popular – in the internet age who wants to pay for sex? However, I have found a site that is worth the price of admission: kinkacademy.com.
Kink Academy isn’t a porn site, but a site filled with informational and instructional videos about sex and kink. The videos are divided into Basic, Intermediate and Advanced – thereby providing information for everyone, no matter their level of experience. Among the many featured topics are bondage, communication, Dominance/submission, edgeplay, fetishes, gender, health, safety, humiliation, service and protocol, sex toys, and sex ed 101. I received a free month’s access in order to review the site, but I think the monthly price of $9.95 is totally worth it. They post new videos regularly (five times a week according to the site) and the videos are presented by experienced sex and kink educators such as Megan Andelloux, Princess Kali (founder of the site), Cecelia Tan, British “Lucky” Paul, Sarah Sloane, and more.
You can watch and re-watch videos in the privacy of your own home. This site would be particularly excellent for those who are just starting to explore kink and want to know more. There’s even basic male and female anatomy videos to get you up to speed with all the lovely features of the human body and videos on condoms, lube, the g-spot, etc. The videos are short and to the point, but provide a wealth of information. I think the fact that you can view these at your convenience and in privacy is more than worth the $9.95 a month.
Even though the basic videos are mostly old hat to an experienced pervert like me, there are higher-level videos and videos on things I’ve never tried such as medical play, fire play, or rope bondage (MasterDoc tells me that he cannot master rope bondage no matter how many times he’s tried). You can explore new things without putting yourself into the position of actually trying them – and you may discover something you never know you’d be into! Even when a kink isn’t my kink, I find it interesting to learn about it and try to understand why others are attracted to it.
I’d like to see videos on needle play, but I’m sure it’s just a matter of time before they cover that and other kinks. I definitely recommend Kink Academy.
Even when I’m not having sex, I’m often listening to stories about sex, talking about sex, or reading about sex. Last night I went to Sex Worker Literati in Manhattan, hosted by Audacia Ray and David Henry Sterry. If you live near NYC you really should go. I had a wonderful time.
I met up with Diva and Tess beforehand for some inexpensive food picked up at the cheap dumpling place down the street. ($3 for dinner and I didn’t even finish it!) and brought to one of their usual bars for drinks with dinner. I got to meet Lucy Vonne for the second time and overall had a wonderful bit of hanging out with everyone. Later on, Twisted Monk showed up, and I got to meet him this time whereas I had only seen him at the sex blogger calendar party. I felt kinda left out though, as I was the only one there without a smart phone/touch screen. I’ve always been really behind with my cell phones. It was only 1 or 2 years ago that I finally got a phone with a camera in it. Yup, call me the cell phone luddite. I’m lusting after an iPhone right about now, but not sure on my librarian salary if I can afford the monthly data charge. I got to hear from Diva about some new and exciting plans she and Tess have. (Of course, I will keep schtum about these until they unveil their ideas. But they’re good ideas as always.)
Twisted Monk is nice, funny, sexy and cute. Damn. No wonder the man can make a living as a pro Dom. (He talked about this for his part of the readings last night.) Of course, his main claim to fame is his popular bondage rope company.
The readings were funny, enlightening and made me really think about why I support sex worker rights. We’re fed stereotypes by the media, but people aren’t stereotypes – they’re people. Sex workers are multi-dimensional human beings, regardless of what you think about the “morality” of sex work. I am happy and proud to have known a variety of sex workers in my life – they’ve been intelligent, (and often quite educated), nice and fun people to be around. When I first had the pleasure of meeting Audacia Ray she was doing sex work and working on her master’s degree. (I was working on my master’s degree at the time too, and wishing I had the cojones and business acumen to get into sex work. It would have paid much, much better than my part-time paraprofessional library jobs alone. But yes, there was the whole illegality thing to consider.) Heck, a while back I realized that MasterDoc and I getting paid to do our bdsm shows makes us sex workers. While we are among the privileged ones, (not all sex workers are middle to upper-middle-class and college educated) I still think the point must be made that sex workers are human beings, and as such they should not be treated like so much trash left out on the street. (It might even be helpful to remember that sex worker clients are human beings as well. And as all the political/religious sex “scandals” have shown, they are often people you already know.)
Making prostitution illegal has never stopped prostitution from going on. The only thing it really manages to do is make prostitutes more vulnerable. They become easy targets for the dregs of society as they can’t exactly go to the police when they’ve been blackmailed, assaulted, raped, and possibly someone has tried to kill them. I think the whole illegality of prostitution is rooted in sexism, homophobia and transphobia – after all, most sex workers are women, men who sell themselves to men, and transgender people. They are part of groups of people already marginalized by society and already vulnerable. If heterosexual men could make a living by selling their sexual favors, do you think that prostitution would be illegal? It’s just an opinion, but I don’t.
While I’m not a libertarian, I think I tend to like them since they’re usually quite supportive of all sex work being legal. (I’m kinda politically unaffiliated, having come from an extreme left/liberal ideology and was once fond of socialism (not anymore) and anarchy (still to a certain extent).)
So while having a fab time last night I was tweeting up a storm. As always, tweeting from my luddite’s phone is one-sided. After tweeting about the joys of chocolate martinis I received a text from MasterDoc saying, “not TOO much booze babe.” Darn. I had planned on one more drink, but I got a soda instead. It was cute when I told Monk about this as he tried to help me think of a loophole, “What if someone else bought you a drink?” Nothing like a Dom trying to help you circumvent your Dom. Hee hee. I said no, he would still be unhappy if I drank too much.
Now on the outside, it looks like I simply submitted to MasterDoc and did as he wished. But in my head went a whole thought process:
“Aw man! I wanted another drink! How much is too much alcohol? I’m not feeling all that drunk. Could I justify one more drink as not being too much? I think MasterDoc would be unhappy with me having four martinis in one night though. And I could never lie to him. Damn. Ok, I won’t have another.” It’s a struggle. In the end, however, I thought MasterDoc’s point of view was right. I was perfectly happy that I didn’t go for one more drink. He was watching out for me. Granted, one more drink probably wouldn’t have made a HUGE difference, but I really did not need another.
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Coming up is the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers on December 17th. Please, let’s promote the idea of sexual freedom for all and safety for ALL workers. And to support the work of Sex Work Awareness, please buy a NYC Sex Blogger Calendar (there’s a special offer there for the month of December from Audacia Ray).
Photo courtesy of Twisted Monk (photo credit elizabethraab.com)
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Last night we got freaky in bed. As MasterDoc got hard watching porn, I had just a glimpse of it before I lay down comfortably on the bed and used the Acuvibe on myself. (I couldn’t see from my angle.) But the glimpse was enough to spark a fantasy; a fantasy of being tied up and gagged and hurt like the video. Hands bound so that they’re useless, mouth gagged securely and my nipples tortured. I would love the feeling of helplessness while he did what he liked to me, touching me wherever he wished. I don’t often get that feeling of utter helplessness when we play, I’d like to feel that.
I got pretty hot from this fantasy, and was ready when he had me get on top for a ride. He pulled on my nipples a bit, and I found myself wishing he’d pull harder. While in the throes of arousal I find myself yearning for more pain than when I’m at a cold start. I had another intense orgasm, falling forward onto MasterDoc, trying to prop myself up so I don’t put too much weight on his chest for too long. I’d fail as spasms rocked me and I’d try to regain control of my position when I could between waves of orgasm. Just by touching me – not even erotic touching, he keeps me coming. No one else has ever been able to do that to me.
As we cuddled in bed before the sex, MasterDoc came up with the idea of meta-sadism – that is, pushing your submissive to the point where they disobey/break the rules. Knowing full well how most subs will struggle internally between wanting to get cranky and wanting to obey perfectly, prodding your sub until they break and get mad would be quite a bit of sadism. Here’s to hoping he doesn’t do it to me. Ha ha.
Before the porn and the fucking I played with his cock for a while. I love sucking his cock. I love to watch him feel pleasure as I prod gently on the right spots of his groin. I suppose it’s exciting because in a way it’s a little bit of him losing control while still remaining in control of me. When someone gasps with pleasure, all they’re able to do in that moment is feel that pleasure.
Now that Thanksgiving dinner is digesting, and gift-giving season is upon us, I thought I’d recommend some of the best sex-related stuff I’ve had the pleasure of reviewing and/or owning. (And alas, some of it isn’t currently available at the stores linked. But hopefully soon! Anyway that’s proof I actually like these things and I’m not just listing them to garner sales.)
For Your Nymphomation Big Foot Case
I got this last year, and I must confess I don’t use it as much as I should. The reason I don’t use it is that we need larger bag for going to parties and clubs, but the FYN Adult Toybox should be coming my way from one of the sites I review for – and that may just be the item we need. I also want to invest in the FYN Cane Case for MasterDoc’s new canes. I lust after FYN’s Rolling Toy Trunk. But anyway, back to the Big Foot. For a relatively small case (12″x5″x5″) it holds an amazing amount of stuff. The side pockets are handy for storing little things like lube packets, condoms and toy batteries – stuff that you’d usually hunt for. The elastic straps at the top ensure that you can make full use of the space, and yet still reach the rest of your toys in the main area of the bag. AND this bad boy locks like all the other FYN cases. No nosy children can get a peek at your adult paraphernalia. To top it all off, Vera, head of FYN is extremely nice.
If you squirt – ever – you need this. It’s microfiber on one side (or shag) and satiny on the other, but the key is the waterproof center. Seriously, I have come buckets on this thing and not a drop has soaked through. It’s larger than a towel so it covers much more. PLUS it’s machine washable and dryable. And it comes in nifty colors and prints. Everyone I know who has a Throe is in total love with it. I am definitely one of that group.
It’s rechargeable, therefore you never need batteries. It’s only one speed, but that speed is comparable to the low setting on the ever-amazing Hitachi Magic Wand. (And for many of us that is plenty intense.) The only drawback is that after about an hour it needs recharging, but it comes with the adapter and the recharge is only an electrical outlet away. Oh and why else does it beat the Hitachi for traveling? It’s smaller and lighter (and easier to handle) and of course doesn’t need an outlet when it’s charged. No more searching for outlets at a play party! The head is not perfectly cylindrical but has a nifty bump on one side.
I love glass toys. They are easy to clean and disinfect. They are hard and unyielding, cold when you start but warm up to your body with time. You can make them warm or cold with water. The archer wand is particularly delightful because the curve reaches your g-spot without any effort. The balled ends provide a large enough surface and enough pressure to potentially cause squirting. While I hear that the Njoy Pure Wand is superior (it’s stainless steel and longer), the archer wand is a cheaper alternative until you can save up for the Njoy. (Babeland had sent the archer wand to me for review, but they don’t carry it any more. So I’ve linked to Vibe Review.)
My own holiday wish list? The Lelo Gigi (in Deep Rose), Njoy Eleven, Njoy Pure Plug (medium). Oh and the For Your Nymphomation Cane Case listed above.
If you decide to purchase any of these goodies for your paramours, please use the links in this post or the store links on the side. I write this blog purely for the joy of it, but a tiny bit of commission on sales would be welcome as a little thank you. (Seriously, I make barely anything off my affiliate links. Any bit you send my way is appreciated. Thank you to those who have used my links!)
It’s blurry; I snapped this photo myself just this morning. But I wanted to share my new lock bracelet from MasterDoc. I wear it constantly.
Happy Thanksgiving to all my pals in the U.S. And Happy Half Nekkid Thursday to all!
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