Comments on: Masochism http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/ Thu, 02 Sep 2010 12:39:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Deity http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/comment-page-1/#comment-90 Deity Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:54:32 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=253#comment-90 As a self-identified sadist, i can unequivocally say that i do enjoy inflicting pain, but as you assert, in a consensual way. But, this too is a slippery slope. My girl consents to me applying pain, but she doesn't know how much, or where i'll apply it. I wrote a post about this on my site <a href="http://transformher.blogspot.com/2008/02/administration-of-pain.html" rel="nofollow">here</a> As a self-identified sadist, i can unequivocally say that i do enjoy inflicting pain, but as you assert, in a consensual way. But, this too is a slippery slope. My girl consents to me applying pain, but she doesn’t know how much, or where i’ll apply it. I wrote a post about this on my site here

]]> By: MasterDoc http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/comment-page-1/#comment-88 MasterDoc Sun, 20 Jul 2008 22:21:03 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=253#comment-88 Yes that was my point. For you, at least (though others differ) the masochism is inextricably tied to submission. A machine that somehow spanked or beat you in a fashion that, if received at my hand, would leave you very pleased would, from the machine, leave you sadly disappointed. The act of pleasing and serving the dom is the essential component for you, NOT the pain itself. I leave it to others to decide if that makes you somehow a less than "true" masochist, in the same way that, some would argue, my desire to inflict pain only on those who in some fashion enjoy it makes me a faux sadist. Yes that was my point. For you, at least (though others differ) the masochism is inextricably tied to submission. A machine that somehow spanked or beat you in a fashion that, if received at my hand, would leave you very pleased would, from the machine, leave you sadly disappointed. The act of pleasing and serving the dom is the essential component for you, NOT the pain itself.
I leave it to others to decide if that makes you somehow a less than “true” masochist, in the same way that, some would argue, my desire to inflict pain only on those who in some fashion enjoy it makes me a faux sadist.

]]> By: Nadia http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/comment-page-1/#comment-87 Nadia Sun, 20 Jul 2008 20:22:19 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=253#comment-87 I think it makes a difference having a person there. I don't think it's merely the action of being struck. For me anyway, masochism is very linked to submission. And submitting to a machine isn't any fun. (Miss you too!) I think it makes a difference having a person there. I don’t think it’s merely the action of being struck. For me anyway, masochism is very linked to submission. And submitting to a machine isn’t any fun. (Miss you too!)

]]> By: MasterDoc http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/comment-page-1/#comment-86 MasterDoc Sun, 20 Jul 2008 19:51:21 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=253#comment-86 To clarify a little more. IF the machine could be set (within certain confines) to randomly vary intensity and location would that make it worth doing? Or would you still decide not to bother? Huggles. Miss you babe. To clarify a little more. IF the machine could be set (within certain confines) to randomly vary intensity and location would that make it worth doing? Or would you still decide not to bother? Huggles. Miss you babe.

]]> By: admin http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/comment-page-1/#comment-85 admin Sun, 20 Jul 2008 15:27:22 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=253#comment-85 MasterDoc - I don't think a machine could ever take the place. I think there has to be a person involved. I know when I was much younger, I attempted to spank myself, but it's a totally different thing than having someone else do it. The expectation you feel, wondering when and how hard they're going to hit, is part of the whole experience. MasterDoc – I don’t think a machine could ever take the place. I think there has to be a person involved. I know when I was much younger, I attempted to spank myself, but it’s a totally different thing than having someone else do it. The expectation you feel, wondering when and how hard they’re going to hit, is part of the whole experience.

]]> By: natty http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/comment-page-1/#comment-84 natty Sun, 20 Jul 2008 04:54:48 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=253#comment-84 Yeah masochism is a funny thing. I live with a lot of pain but it's only pain in my breasts and my ass that is ever arousing. Well okay, and maybe my cunt. I remember the first time I went to the chiropractor to have an adjustment and after the first adjustment my upper back started to spasm. It really really hurt. But after a few minutes the endorphines kicked in and I was all "hey, let's do that again!" It wasn't arousal, but I did -- and still do -- love those endorphines. ;-) Yeah masochism is a funny thing. I live with a lot of pain but it’s only pain in my breasts and my ass that is ever arousing. Well okay, and maybe my cunt.

I remember the first time I went to the chiropractor to have an adjustment and after the first adjustment my upper back started to spasm. It really really hurt. But after a few minutes the endorphines kicked in and I was all “hey, let’s do that again!” It wasn’t arousal, but I did — and still do — love those endorphines. ;-)

]]> By: jess1967 http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/comment-page-1/#comment-83 jess1967 Sun, 20 Jul 2008 03:20:36 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=253#comment-83 Hi, So many of the things you have said speak to me. I started out with light spanking and I think I am actually a masochist. I have always had a high tolerance for pain. I wonder if that plays a part in gravitating toward masochism. Like you, migraines and back pain are my undoing, but I can take an awful lot of play spanking/whipping. I also bruise easily. My legs always have random bruises too. I don’t know that my husband is a natural sadist, but he is learning to like it because of the sexual benefits. Sometimes I long to have a true dominant dominate me. (I hesitate to say sadist because I would not want a sadist who likes giving non-consensual pain). Take care, -Jess Hi,
So many of the things you have said speak to me. I started out with light spanking and I think I am actually a masochist. I have always had a high tolerance for pain. I wonder if that plays a part in gravitating toward masochism. Like you, migraines and back pain are my undoing, but I can take an awful lot of play spanking/whipping. I also bruise easily. My legs always have random bruises too.

I don’t know that my husband is a natural sadist, but he is learning to like it because of the sexual benefits. Sometimes I long to have a true dominant dominate me. (I hesitate to say sadist because I would not want a sadist who likes giving non-consensual pain).

Take care,
-Jess

]]> By: MasterDoc http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/07/19/masochism/comment-page-1/#comment-82 MasterDoc Sat, 19 Jul 2008 23:16:33 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=253#comment-82 A mental exercise for you Nadia. Imagine that there was a mechanical device like a vibrator except that it administered spankings. Now imagine you had such a device but DIDN'T have a dom or a domme. Question: how often (if ever) and under what circumstances do you think you would "assume the position". And how hard would you set it? Harder than I hit you? Softer? Glad you are enjoying your weekend. Mwah. A mental exercise for you Nadia. Imagine that there was a mechanical device like a vibrator except that it administered spankings. Now imagine you had such a device but DIDN’T have a dom or a domme. Question: how often (if ever) and under what circumstances do you think you would “assume the position”. And how hard would you set it? Harder than I hit you? Softer?
Glad you are enjoying your weekend. Mwah.

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