Comments on: The Negative Side of Sex http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/06/20/the-negative-side-of-sex/ Sun, 05 Feb 2012 22:31:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bullshit, Part II | Diary of a Kinky Librarian http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/06/20/the-negative-side-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-13059 Bullshit, Part II | Diary of a Kinky Librarian Tue, 22 Nov 2011 14:01:33 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=237#comment-13059 [...] the irritating spectrum is the fact that the guy who sexually assaulted me is still denying it. (Description here, despite his trying to claim I deleted it off my blog.)  I wrote about my situation, not naming [...] [...] the irritating spectrum is the fact that the guy who sexually assaulted me is still denying it. (Description here, despite his trying to claim I deleted it off my blog.)  I wrote about my situation, not naming [...]

]]> By: Sapphire G http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/06/20/the-negative-side-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-107 Sapphire G Mon, 11 Aug 2008 02:11:41 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=237#comment-107 Me again. I am glad that you were able to move on as much as you could & I am glad about the sex life too (smile.) Maybe the blessing here is that after all this dies down, there won't be so much interest in reading his blog so there won't be links & comments everywhere you look. Me again. I am glad that you were able to move on as much as you could & I am glad about the sex life too (smile.) Maybe the blessing here is that after all this dies down, there won’t be so much interest in reading his blog so there won’t be links & comments everywhere you look.

]]> By: Nadia http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/06/20/the-negative-side-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-105 Nadia Sun, 10 Aug 2008 22:08:35 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=237#comment-105 Over the past 3+ years not a day has gone by when I didn't think about it. Coming across his name triggered me on a regular basis. But, fuck it. I've moved on in many ways and I have a very statisfying sex life now despite what's happened to me. Over the past 3+ years not a day has gone by when I didn’t think about it. Coming across his name triggered me on a regular basis. But, fuck it. I’ve moved on in many ways and I have a very statisfying sex life now despite what’s happened to me.

]]> By: Sapphire G http://www.diaryofakinkylibrarian.com/index.php/2008/06/20/the-negative-side-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-104 Sapphire G Sun, 10 Aug 2008 21:49:52 +0000 http://www.kinkylibrarian.net/?p=237#comment-104 I am very very sorry to read that this happeend to you. I both sympathize & empathize. Although my experiences are different I can relate on some level. I, too was raped years ago. Somehow that didn't sour me on sex after some time had passed. Hence, the need for an (almost) botched abortion performed a few years later. The doctor (Certified? Experienced? Who knows b/c so few will perform abortions in certain areas of the US that even PP will take almost anyone on to do it) managed to inflict the most pain w/ the speculum. This tramatized more than the actual abortion. You wouldn't want to be my gyn today or sometimes even my sex partner... On another note, nothing is worse than being told that something didn't happen when it did. And being asked to let it go & make up w/ the underlying sentiment that your overreacting anyway makes my blood boil but also makes my feel powerless especially when the witnesses to the action are saying this. And to have to come across the person who caused all this while you're going about your daily business is beyond annoying. Are you supposed to change what you would do naturally or have to be reminded of the situation each & every time you see their name or worse yet, the actual person? And if I weren't sickened, I would almost laugh at being drunk used as an excuse for that particular behavior. A little different from tripping on the stairs after a few too many. I am very very sorry to read that this happeend to you. I both sympathize & empathize.

Although my experiences are different I can relate on some level. I, too was raped years ago. Somehow that didn’t sour me on sex after some time had passed. Hence, the need for an (almost) botched abortion performed a few years later. The doctor (Certified? Experienced? Who knows b/c so few will perform abortions in certain areas of the US that even PP will take almost anyone on to do it) managed to inflict the most pain w/ the speculum. This tramatized more than the actual abortion. You wouldn’t want to be my gyn today or sometimes even my sex partner…

On another note, nothing is worse than being told that something didn’t happen when it did. And being asked to let it go & make up w/ the underlying sentiment that your overreacting anyway makes my blood boil but also makes my feel powerless especially when the witnesses to the action are saying this. And to have to come across the person who caused all this while you’re going about your daily business is beyond annoying. Are you supposed to change what you would do naturally or have to be reminded of the situation each & every time you see their name or worse yet, the actual person?

And if I weren’t sickened, I would almost laugh at being drunk used as an excuse for that particular behavior. A little different from tripping on the stairs after a few too many.

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