MasterDoc posted part of my last post on the conversation boards on collarme. He selected just part of it in order to stir up conversation, and he’s been quite successful. lol I didn’t think about how controversial what I said about “the submissive lie” would be. After all, this blog is just a place for me to air my opinions and is read by very few people. Although the way I presented it was as if I was speaking for all subs, the fact remains that clearly the opinions posted on here are simply mine. I can’t speak for all subs any more than I can speak for all women, or all librarians. (Some librarians derive pleasure from helping each and every person who comes their way with a reference question, some of us get annoyed with the occasional idiots who come up to the ref desk.)
I found some of the subs who decried “but I do get turned on by everything master makes me do!” to be implying that one can’t be a “twue” “weal” sub without it. I disagree. It’s great that that works in that way for them and I believe that for some people that’s honestly how they experience submission. I do derive some pleasure from helping MasterDoc, but ultimately I’m a submissive because I submit, not because I always like what I’m submitting to. When I have the collar on I don’t whine or complain, I just do what I’m told. Submission isn’t always easy. It’s not always about getting off (if only it was!). Just because I don’t enjoy some parts of submission (keep in mind I LOVE many parts of submission) doesn’t make me any less of a sub than someone who gets pleasure out of every second of it. In fact, I think it’s a greater accomplishment to submit when you’re not directly deriving pleasure from it, but you do it because you’ve agreed to give power over to the other person in your relationship.
And that’s just my 2 cents for the day. Other subs’ mileage may vary.
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