Monthly Archive for October, 2007

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Disturbing

Published on October 10, 2007 in bdsm and law. 0 Comments

This case recently came to my attention: Bondage Webmaster Fights Abuse Conviction. Let me summarize – there was a consensual bdsm relationship between two people, they became estranged and the woman decided to press charges against the man for the acts she had given consent to. This is scary stuff. A man is in prison for a consensual relationship. It’s so disturbing to know that someone could decide for me that I’m being abused, when in fact everything I do with MasterDoc is done with full consent. It so goes against my sense of fair play for this woman to turn around and cry rape for something she had consented to. (Not to mention how this harms women who have actually been raped. I’ve been there – I don’t think it’s worth reporting rape or assault to the police and thanks to this woman the things that I do willingly could be construed as more harmful than the acts that actually did me harm that wouldn’t be likely to get prosecuted. What a fucked up justice system we have.) One of his subs blogs about the case and she’s made the point that no one who was interviewed (she was among many of his subs who were interviewed by the FBI) corroborated the accusing woman’s story. They all agreed that what they had seen of their relationship was entirely consensual and not under duress. And this man got convicted. Scary stuff. I’m becoming more and more irritated by the government acting paternalistically where it has no business to. (Yup this libertarian socialist might be turning more libertarian these days.)

Power is Sexy

Published on October 9, 2007 in bdsm, dom and sex. 0 Comments

I enjoyed this post over at Bitchy Jones’ Diary. She has a lot of good things to say about female sexuality, and I enjoyed this post both for the talk about how looks equal power for women (unfortunately this is considered so in our society… it’s really just an illusion) but also for the idea that really, power and control is the sexy thing in a D/s relationship – not run of the mill being physically hot for the person. I have to be able to respect someone who’s domming me to want to give up my normally strong personality for a while. Outside the bedroom, I’m opinionated and sometimes bitchy. I’m intelligent, educated and think for myself. I’m a staunch feminist. But god do I love submitting to someone and letting him (or her) tell me what to do. And the fact that MasterDoc is intelligent, strong (personality/character-wise) and confident are what make me want to submit to him. You have to be able to trust that someone knows what to do with their power in order to give them that much power over you.

I got together with MasterDoc yesterday – I had the day off so we ended up meeting in the afternoon rather than in the morning. He got me set up naked, blindfolded and tied down on the floor in the living room. Then the door buzzer sounded and he let someone or someones in. There was no talking so I had really no idea how many people or who was there. He started using me in front of the unknown audience. I wondered if it was someone who had been there before. He slapped my thighs and crotch and hooked me up to the TENS unit (both nipples AND clit this time). He was being fairly rough with me, which made me really wonder who it was who was watching. Eventually he asked if I wanted to see who my audience was, I said yes and the blindfold came off and… it was a woman. And of course since I know he has a femdom friend I had to wonder if this was her, but it turns out she’s this sub he’s been talking to. (They met in a totally non-bdsm or dating environment, funny story but I don’t feel at liberty to share.) This was different, having a woman I don’t know watching. (V. watched him dom me one time, but I knew her.)

Luckily for me, after the pain there was much fucking and it felt wonderful. Some more pain was interspersed and thankfully he let me have an orgasm. (He’s so good to me. Of course, he realizes that I can go home to Davey and get sex if I really want it, so there’s not a lot of point to working me up without satisfying me since I won’t stay unsatisfied for long. Yeah, this isn’t a true D/s relationship and can’t be one because I have a primary relationship to attend to so I have a certain amount of freedom I wouldn’t have as his sub otherwise. I’m not sure how I would do in a true Dom/sub relationship. I’m so used to having a certain amount of control over my life/sex life.) At one point, he fucked me for a bit then had me lie face down on the floor and started spanking me. My head got into this blissful state where I really would have been happy for him to do anything to me.

Afterward, the three of us hung out and talked for a while. I got some cuddles but not as many as I would usually get (since we had a guest) but then today it worked out that I had some unexpected free time, and MasterDoc was in the neighborhood so I got my cuddles today. Hooray!

Friday evening D.S. is supposed to come for a visit. I haven’t talked to him lately so we still have to work out the details, but he’s going to crash. It’s been over a month since I last saw him, it will be so good to hang out again.

Hello Sailor!

Published on October 6, 2007 in fantasy. 0 Comments

What a day. I got my period first thing this morning, then had hellacious cramps all day. (And this means I’ll just be on day three of it when I see MasterDoc on Monday.) Davey and I spent the day with his ultra conservative, very talkative parents, taking them to the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island. We stood for about an hour and a half in the unseasonable heat just to get on the boat to Liberty Island. I was super cranky between the cramps and quality time with Davey’s parents. I hope I managed to hide it well. We finally just said goodbye to them, around 9:30 p.m. Whew. It’s been a loooong day.

I did amuse myself at one point with a naughty little fantasy. We were on the boat to Liberty Island and there were about five young, attractive, navy guys (could tell from the uniforms) who were speaking what sounded like German. Most were blue-eyed brunettes (my favorite combination). I imagined I was there with MasterDoc rather than Davey and his parents. I would mention my naughty thoughts to him and then he’d offer to the sailors that they could all have their way with me in a hotel somewhere. First they’d be incredulous, then they’d get excited at the idea of gang banging me. I imagined being taken by a line of cute, young, fit, and enthusiastic German sailors. Granted, at the back of my mind was the memory of the debacle with the quick-coming 23-year-old a few months back. But I figured there were five of them and perhaps between all five they could get me off. At least one of them had to be able to last a little while. Plus I’d love to be talked dirty to in German, the language always sounds like you’re saying something dirty anyway. I also imagined that they’d be pretty hot with their clothes off. Yummy.

Threesome

Published on October 5, 2007 in dp, sex and threesome. 0 Comments

So mostly it’s been a quiet week for me on the sex blogging front. I took a lil break to let that tear in my ho-ha heal up properly and it seems to be just fine now. During the break, Davey and I amused ourselves with some anal sex one night, featuring my bullet vibe on my clit. Fun times.

I broke my sexual fast last night with my first actual MFM threesome. On the menu? Double penetration with Davey and MasterDoc. Of course, life is not like porn movies so ultimately the dp didn’t happen – getting the right angle can be difficult! Not to mention keeping two men hard at the same time, but I’m mostly up to the task. *grin* Still, I had a lot of fun being the center of attention of two of my favorite guys. Having four hands and two mouths pay attention to me and two hard dicks to play with and fuck was like this slut’s equivalent of going to Disneyland. It was also interesting to play with MasterDoc in a non D/s situation for a change. He really is a sweetie when he’s not beating the crap out of me. *wink* I wouldn’t have it any other way really – a guy I can trust and feel safe with who can also push my limits and give me a really good, bruise-inducing spanking.

But anyway, there were no spankings last night, but it’s definitely a great situation to be with two men who I feel totally comfortable being slutty with. They both like my slutty ways. It’s nice to be appreciated for being a slut rather than put down for it. We attempted to get the dp going (MasterDoc taking the front, Davey at the back) but once I was on top of MasterDoc the angle wasn’t right for Davey to get in my ass. When I chatted with MasterDoc early today he mentioned that he had been trying to work out the angle difficulty and has ideas for next time we try. (If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again!) He asked if I was disappointed, but really I had such a good time I’m totally not disappointed that I’m still a double penetration virgin (well I’ve done one penis and one toy before, but not two penises). Go figure, there’s something Nadia still hasn’t tried. I figured it wouldn’t be as easy as the porn films so I wasn’t really expecting it to work. If it had worked it would have been a pleasant surprise.

There was fucking and fingering and blow jobs all around. Davey came on my chest. (He wanted to come on my face, but every time he asks to do that inevitably I’ve just washed my hair and I won’t want to risk having to wash and blow dry it all over again.) At the end of the evening we were all pretty tired. (Well at least Davey and I were. I can’t remember if MasterDoc said he was tired.) I think as I slept last night I woke up a few times thinking about what I had gotten up to.

I’m a very lucky girl.

Banned Books Week

Published on October 2, 2007 in banned books week and intellectual freedom. 0 Comments

“If we don’t believe in freedom of expression for people we despise, we don’t believe in it at all.” – Noam Chomsky

I’m going to take a little break from sex blogging here, because this week is one of my favorite weeks in library-land – Banned Books Week. Every year, libraries and booksellers try to bring to light the fact that even in our “free” country people still try to tell others what they can and can’t read. From the ALA website:

“Banned Books Week (BBW) celebrates the freedom to choose or the freedom to express one’s opinion even if that opinion might be considered unorthodox or unpopular and stresses the importance of ensuring the availability of those unorthodox or unpopular viewpoints to all who wish to read them. After all, intellectual freedom can exist only where these two essential conditions are met.”

If we let a small group of “concerned citizens” decide what we and our children can or can’t read, then we’re just steps away from this sort of censorship. Too many books are challenged every year because some adult thinks that no child should be able to read a book they object to (Harry Potter, anyone?) The only people who have a right to dictate what children read are their own parents.

The most challenged book of the year is “And Tango Makes Three“, by Justin Richardson and Peter Parnell, an adorable picture book about two male penguins in the Central Park Zoo who paired up and then, when given an abandoned egg to nest with, hatched the egg and raised it as their own. This is a true story, about penguins, not people. And yet people are afraid it promotes a “homosexual agenda.” This book was challenged in a library near where I live, and I live in a pretty liberal area of the country. Book challenges can happen anywhere, and come from both the right and the left mind you – people can seek to challenge a book because the views expressed are no longer “politically correct,” however these challenges often ignore the historical significance of books that are somewhat outdated in views (i.e., the portrayal of Native Americans in Laura Ingalls Wilder’s Little House on the Prairie series) and miss the fact that discussion with children about the change of views in society yield much more intelligent and thoughtful young people.

I recommend you check out the list of books that have been most frequently challenged, take one of them, read it and decide for yourself if the censors are doing anyone a favor by trying to ban the books. I find it interesting that usually the books people seek to ban are high quality books, frequently ones on school reading lists. I guess no one really cares if a book is so poorly written no one would bother reading it. Should a quality piece of literature go unread just because some of the content is challenging? I don’t think so, and I hope that anyone who agrees with me will keep an eye out for book challenges in their community and speak up in favor of intellectual freedom for all.