Dating

I’m getting to the point where I’m ready to take a break from dating. No, I don’t know if that’s the right term. “Give up” might be a better term. A few months ago I met three promising people, and things went relatively well with each. But nothing much has happened and I’m starting to feel fed up.

The Irishman never seems to have free time when I do. And I’m to the point where I really don’t believe, at all, that he’s not cheating on his wife. From moment one, I’ve been skeptical of his claim that he’s in an open marriage. And now it’s to the point where I realize that this bothers me. I don’t like people lying to me and I don’t need to be the other woman he cheats with. I live my life honestly and I’d like my lovers to do the same. I’m kinda glad I realized this before I ended up sleeping with him. He’ll kick himself when he realizes that if he had moved faster he would have been able to get me into bed. But now it’s doubtful.

The Latina seems cool and moderately interested, but she disappears for long periods of time. I’ll reply quickly to her emails (which is my habit) and then not hear a damn thing from her for a few weeks. I’m getting really frustrated, and suggesting plans without taking the time to confirm them shortly after is kinda rude. I’m also disturbed by the idea that such a staunch feminist may be continuing to go to those parties knowing full well what that man did to me. It’s inconsistent behavior. I don’t know exactly how I feel about continuing with her. I’m inclined to give it more time but how long should I wait between emails! At the very least, I don’t hold time for her unless she’s confirmed it with me. (Not that I’m up to much otherwise!)

Finally, the married guy. Nice guy, had a nice time, we’ve tried making plans once more but snow cancelled them. Haven’t heard from him lately. Seems like after the initial chatty emails we ran out of things to say. Don’t know where that’s going.

Had these things not worked out after the first date I wouldn’t be half as frustrated. (I’d have forgotten them by now.) But the turtle’s pace is driving me nuts. I wonder if I should just focus my energies on Davey and the two friends with benefits (Saajan and T.M.) I have from before.